Believe it or not, it is not only possible, but quite common for someone to consciously convince themselves that they want change in their life, but subconsciously put all their effort into keeping everything the same as it is right now.

Do You Really Want to Change?

They even go through all the motions of starting a new approach, enlist help, buying software, having a website built, creating all kinds of marketing verbiage and tools, only to consistently find some insurmountable challenge when it gets close to a start date that prevents them from following through.

Why would anyone do that?


Fear is the primary reason that most people do not follow through.

Fear of what?

  • Fear of success
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of what others might think, say, or do
  • Or all the above

They are unhappy, unmotivated, and unfulfilled. They know exactly what they need to do, but never manage to get it done. They are often solitary individuals who have lots of friends and connections, but they live their life almost entirely in their own heads.

This vicious circle of starting and then stopping, repeatedly, can cause them to have low confidence, low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression, which reinforces their overwhelming desire to keep everything the same, no matter how good a new future might look.

Does this scenario describe you? If so, what can you do about it?


Is There a Solution?

One of the best ways to break this pattern is to help someone less fortunate than yourself. Perhaps try charitable work or something similar, where people depend on your help, energy, and support, and you know it.

In this charitable work, consider how you have responsibility to others where you cannot possibly let down those who depend on you. That way, you are not working for your own personal rewards, but for someone who cannot possibly fulfil their ambitions on their own.

The feeling you get from helping others is so strong, so compelling, that your personal anxiety diminishes, and your self-esteem rises in direct proportion to each other.

You will enjoy strong feelings of accomplishment and, in turn, fulfilment. You will find yourself in a place of happiness that you have never experienced before, and you really like it.

Decide and Do

Through practical experience, you will come to realize that when you decide and do something, you move forward. You will recognize that you can live your life best and most fully by making decisions and doing.

You will also acknowledge that doing things for someone else allows you to fully engage your talents in a way that you could never have experienced while just working for yourself.

When you find purpose in all that you do, you will also realize that the fear evaporated long ago, and now you can feel a sense of pride in your work that was never there before.

Through helping others, you will come to understand that it does not even matter if you make a wrong decision or take a wrong action. You can always make another decision and take another action and correct it.

The most important thing is that you keep making decisions and doing. It is the only way to effect change in anything.

The biggest changes will be the ones you experience yourself, but it may still take others to point them out. You are so talented, and you have no idea how gifted you really are, until you see other peoples’ lives improved because of your actions.

That is when you will get to see your true, authentic self showing up in your smile as you look forward to creating the future you desire.


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