Those that do not practice radical acceptance often complain that things are not the way they would like them to be. They complain about situations not being “fair”. They judge situations and people.
Radical acceptance means accepting people and situations as they are. It is about accepting reality.
Many people confuse acceptance with approval, but this is not the truth. Accepting the reality of a situation means that you are moving beyond judging it and are looking for potential solutions.
Instead of complaining about the weather, you are looking for an umbrella. Instead of tormenting over a lost job, you are making a plan to tighten up your budget and find a new opportunity. Instead of complaining that you do not have many friends, you start building your social circle.
Here are some strategies to allow radical acceptance to bring you emotional peace and positive change:
1. Recognize what you can and cannot control.
This is a excellent first step for understanding radical acceptance. Accept what you cannot control and take action to create your desired results with those things you can control.
2. Understand the pain that a lack of acceptance creates.
Refusing to accept your current situation, past, or limitations is a recipe for misery.
- Acceptance allows for progress and growth.
3. Acknowledge the reality of the situation.
What is your current situation financially, socially, educationally, and professionally? What is your current health status? What is the reality of your life? When you can identify and accept your current situation, you are able to make wise decisions.
4. Be present.
You are not practicing radical acceptance if you are daydreaming, thinking of the past, or dreaming about the future. The only reality is happening right now.
5. Accept your situation without judgment.
To truly accept it, you cannot judge it. Judging means that you are deciding whether it’s good or bad, positive or negative. Judging means you can be upset or pleased by it. Radical acceptance just accepts what is without judgment.
- Of course, that does not mean you have to live with your situation. You are free to evaluate it in a non-judgmental way and act as you see fit. It is a very real, but subtle, difference.
6. Accept yourself.
We all have strengths and weaknesses. Accept everything about yourself. You will discover a peace you may never have experienced before.
7. Look for solutions.
Radical acceptance means spending time on solutions rather than ruminating on the challenges in your life. If you accept what is happening in your life, there is not a lot of reason to sit around and dwell upon it. Ideally, you will be looking for ways to make improvements.
Radical acceptance is both easy and challenging. It can be the easiest thing in the world. You just stop judging, accept reality, and take whatever action is appropriate.
It can be challenging because there are advantages to focusing on your suffering. Some people are addicted to the drama they create in their head. It is easier to justify not taking action when you immobilize yourself emotionally. And let us face it, judging is a habit that can be challenging to overcome. We also like making excuses for ourselves.
Try radical acceptance for yourself and see what type of impact it has on your life. You will love the results!!
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