When some people are feeling down, they may indulge in a little retail therapy – perhaps purchasing a new outfit, a pair of shoes or some electronic toy to cheer them up. For some individuals, relocation may be a more effective pick-me-up.
Although – it is true that you cannot solve a problem by running away from it, there are certain life situations which may make moving to a new home and a different location a very positive and empowering method of self-improvement
Recovering from a divorce, handling empty-nest syndrome, death of a spouse and other similar crises seem to respond well to new surroundings. For a person grieving the loss of a spouse or child, continuing to live in the same neighborhood where memories of the missing individual lie around every corner can be difficult. Furthermore, major life changes may mean that a current home and neighborhood no longer meet a person’s needs, socially and otherwise.
As an example… a married couple with school-aged children may enjoy living in a close-knit community near a school. However, once those kids leave home – the noise from the playground and other aspects of living near a school and young families may become irritants. As a new season of life dawns, the couple may prefer to move to a bustling urban area with entertainment and amenities that better accommodate a child-free lifestyle.
Those looking for real estate in New York have many options. As life changes, 
your NY real estate needs may change too. Don’t lock yourself into staying at the same home regardless of changes in your personal life and experience. Instead, evaluate your current home and decide if the location is right for you. Do you find yourself traveling in order to participate in enjoyable social activities? Do you feel depressed or trapped in your own home and find yourself wishing for a community that better suits your emotional and social needs? Do you and your partner live in the home that was once home to an ex-lover? If you answer “yes” to any of these questions, you are likely to find relocation therapy helpful.
Of course, there will always be a need for a person to address the emotional components of the changes that may happen, especially when those changes are brought about by a loss (i.e. empty-nest, divorce, or death of a partner). But a change in your environment when made with awareness and mindfulness could be exactly the boost required to find a new sense of peace and calmness. After all – if you can’t feel comfortable and at ease in your own home, where can you?
Open your mind to new possibilities. If your surroundings no longer nurture you, check into new real estate options. Find a home that can really be your own. Look for a community that offers the amenities you want and need. A new life may be waiting for you on the other side of town or even across the state.
This information was written by Ken Torrino, web relations for Elliman, brokers for New York City real estate.
I love your idea of changing scenery. It may not make the problem go away but I believe, it can help. Thanks for this inspiring post, Moira!
Thanks Alexandra – I agree, this is not about running away from a problem but being realistic with a shifting reality!
I really like this one! We have become empty nesters and are considering a move. It’s amazing how many people have ideas about what a BAD idea that would be. I’m glad I read this today. You know, the house seems way too big for two people and staying here only reminds me that the kids are grown up. I find a little sadness in that fact 🙁
Thanks Martha – it’s so important to allow yourself to look at your situation for what it is rather than feel stuck in an environment that tends to bring in a sense of sadness… all the best to you my dear!
We are empty nesters, but our home still works for us at the moment. At times I think that a new home could be fun, as it entails a new project and something to fix up a bit. I know many friends are downsizing and don’t need the extra bedrooms. That makes sense to me. It is important to make your home a special place and something that works for you.
Well said Cathy – it is important to feel good in your ho,e environment whether that means renovating or moving!
I like the perspective to evaluate what your needs are NOW….so often, people get trapped in the status quo, instead of looking at what would work best for them in the present moment. Excellent post!
Thanks Sherie – it’s so true isn’t it… sometimes we need to acknowledge the fact that we are ALL moving targets and what is right for us today will not stay the same.
It always works for me, I have lived all over the place. Something new and interesting to discover.
Thanks Aimee – I’ve also lived in many places all over the world – it certainly helps keep perspective doesn’t it.
After my separation from my husband moving to a different state was one of the best things I could have done. It game me a fresh start and if you don’t want to sell your home you can leave it rented in case you ever want to move back.
Good point Karla – I also moved when I separated from my ex… it was also the best thing I could have done ;).
I almost moved after my divorce. I held tight and stayed to heal and realized my reasons to move weren’t sound. Great post, Moira!
Thanks Lisa – I think the key point here is not to allow yourself to feel stuck – if you can heal and move on in the existing place – that’s great too.
Well now… I think I might go see my doctor, I need a change of scenery! Tee… heee… Seriously, these are great tips for evaluating your needs. This is also something that we are considering since we are empty nesters. Thanks!
Too funny Norma – it is really all about staying true to what your needs are!
There are so many different stages in our lives, especially now that we’re living sooooooooo much longer, that reevaluating when things feel out of kilter, uncomfortable or, gasp, boring, is an excellent step. I wouldn’t have thought of it in relation to real estate and it makes ever so much sense.
Thanks MamaRed – it’s very true that when things go out of balance or off kilter – it’s time to look and what changes can be made.
Moved from a life-long urban experience to a farm 4 years ago…never looked back, and often wonder what took me so long to align my home life with my deepest self.
Thanks Lorrie! I also moved to a more rural setting 6 years ago! I love the fact that I live close enough to a city for business and networking but I get to come home and connect with nature – very nurturing for the soul.
Love this idea – change of locations as a possible answer to coping with major life changes. Great post, Moira!
Thanks Lisa! Perspective is important isn’t it :).
Relocation therapy…I like it. And we are lookingtod just that in the next 6 months as finances allow. This place is not nurturing and longer and we all feel it!
Good for you Carl! It’s definitely important to feel nurtured where you live – all the best on finding the right fit for you!
It’s certainly something to consider Gotta balance that part with the idea that wherever I go, I take myself with me.