Are you comfortable being yourself in all situations? If you are like most people, you are 90% yourself when you are with close friends, 50% yourself with casual acquaintances, and hide yourself from strangers. Being your true self in all settings and situations can feel scary, but ultimately it is empowering and relaxing. Imagine the relief you will experience.
You no longer must worry about the perceptions of others. You can just be yourself and feel satisfied with that.
Be yourself and take back control of your life:
1. Meditate.
Meditation quiets the part of you that judges and labels everything around you. Gain some insight into the real you by meditating regularly.
2. Tell the truth.
When you are truthful, you reveal yourself. Be honest about your mistakes and shortcomings.
3. Be unique.
The authentic you is not exactly like everyone else. What music do you listen to when you are alone? How do you dress? Do you keep the unique parts to yourself or are you willing to share them with the world?
4. Notice your crutches and get rid of them. Rocky road ice cream? Mindless internet surfing? A double vanilla café latte? Using crutches to deal with boredom, anxiety or uncertainty is blocking you from seeing the truth.
- What is the purpose of a particular crutch? Stop using it and see for yourself.
5. Examine the areas in your life that feel inauthentic.
When and where do you feel like you are lacking authenticity? Often it will be during interactions with strangers, first dates, new social experiences, and more formal occasions.
- A lack of authenticity can also occur when you spend time with your parents and siblings. They just don’t seem to want you to change, so you fall back into your old roles.
- Think about the times you are inauthentic and ask yourself why.
6. Spend your time on things you enjoy.
What do you really enjoy? Do you play in the softball league so you will fit in? Would you rather be taking rumba lessons? Spend your free time on the things that you are most passionate about.
7. Do one thing you want to do but are afraid to try.
The people at the office might laugh if you take up the cello or take an acting class. However, secretly, they will be jealous that you have the nerve to do something unconventional. So many people are stifled and bored. You can rise above all of that.
8. Give your opinion.
Not necessarily all the time but give your opinion if it won’t hurt anyone. Going to see a movie with some friends? Tell them the movie you would most like to see. Perhaps your family wants to go to the public pool or the park? Let your opinion be known.
9. Get outside.
An indoor environment is unnatural. The air is heated or cooled. The lighting is artificial. You can’t see the sun, hear the birds, or feel the grass beneath your feet. Get yourself into a more natural environment and you will find it easier to be authentic.
10. Strengthen your boundaries.
Where your boundaries are weak, your true self is being stifled. These are the places we allow others to determine the rules and set the frame. You will know these places by the high amounts of energy they drain from you.
Overcome your need to fit in and impress others. No matter what you do, some people will be impressed, and others won’t. Why worry about it? You are an amazing person. Allow yourself to BE that person every day.
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