There is a lot of truth to the quote, “We have met the enemy, and he is us.” We tend to get in our own way far more than life, other people, or bad luck sabotage our success. We truly are our own worst enemy. You would be amazed by how much easier your life would be if you weren’t constantly sabotaging your success.

Eliminate Self-Sabotage: How to Get Out of Your Own Way

It boggles the mind why we stand in our own way, but we do. Being aware of and accepting this idea is half the battle to overcoming it.

Here are techniques to stop sabotaging yourself:


1. Let go of the past.

Mistakes from the past don’t mean that you are doomed to failure in the future. The past should be used as educational material, not as a predictor of the future. Leave your past in the past and create the future you desire.

2. Avoid talking to yourself unless you are going to say something nice.

You spend too much time saying negative things to yourself. Eventually, you begin to believe them. Such negative input gives you an incorrect opinion of yourself and your capabilities. Ensure that your self-talk is supportive and positive.

3. Notice the habits that sabotage your success.

Think about what you want to be successful at and notice the habits that stand in your way. For example, if you want to lose weight, but you eat a bag of chips every time you are feeling stressed, that habit is sabotaging your success.

  • Make a list of all the habits that sabotage your success. Write down all the ways in which those habits block or limit your success. What is the cost of each of those habits? Being aware of the damage these habits cause can make it easier to change them.
4. Define your fear.

All self-sabotage is rooted in fear. What exactly are you afraid of? Are you afraid of embarrassing yourself? Are you afraid of finding out that you are not capable? Are you afraid of success? Are you afraid of what people will think of or say about you?

  • Understand the basic fear that is causing you to sabotage yourself. Unless you can either get over that fear or remove it, you will continue to get in your own way.

5. Know your ceiling. Notice how far you can go before you begin sabotaging yourself. For example, perhaps you are stuck at a particular income level. What income level do you get stuck at? If you are trying to lose weight, at what point do you begin sabotaging yourself? We all have a ceiling for each part of our lives. Understand yours and strive to understand why.

6. Identify and change your beliefs.

What are the beliefs that stand in your way? For example, do you believe that you are naturally a chubby person that can never get below a certain weight? Do you believe that you can never be a successful writer because you failed high school English?

  • Look at all of your beliefs related to the part of your life you want to be more successful in. Which of those beliefs are getting in your way?
7. Notice the people that get in your way.

Sometimes, we allow people into our lives that don’t really want the best for us. You will find that few people are truly interested in seeing you live up to your full potential.

  • Avoid believing that it is acceptable to allow someone to get in your way. If they choose to be an obstacle, consider removing them from your life.

The good news is that it is so much easier to control yourself than it is to control others or circumstances outside of yourself. Since you are the source of your challenges, you also have the power to eliminate them. Never underestimate how much you are standing in your own way!!


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