Your biggest obstacle to success is YOU!!. The rest of the world is way too busy to actively get in your way. Isn’t that great news? If your lack of success is your responsibility, you can take steps to address the situation.
There are a number of ways in which you may be sabotaging yourself. You may procrastinate, think negatively, and have other detrimental habits. As Walt Kelly once said, “We have met the enemy, and he is us.”
Be honest with yourself and look at the times in your life when success slipped through your fingers. Can you see how you are at least partly at fault?
Here are some ideas and strategies to overcome self-sabotage and claim your birthright of success:
1. Be clear about what you want.
One way to sabotage yourself is to keep changing your mind. You might spend months working toward one goal, only to change your mind. Indecisiveness is a success destroyer. Be clear about what you want and be consistent.
2. Notice how you waste time.
What do you do when you procrastinate? Do you like to watch TV? YouTube videos? Go shopping? Have a snack? You cannot stop yourself from wasting time unless you can recognize that you are wasting time. Make a list of your time-wasting behaviors and pay attention when they happen.
- Understand the repercussions of your behavior. Time-wasting behaviors feel good in the short-term. That is probably all you are considering. Turn your attention to the bigger picture. What will happen down the road if you continue to waste time? Consider the consequences.
3. Stop negative self-talk.
Isn’t life challenging enough already? You do not have to make things even more difficult by getting in your own way. Observe yourself. If you catch yourself speaking poorly to or about yourself, stop and say something positive instead.
4. Hang out with positive, supportive people.
The people around you can sabotage your efforts. This is a form of self-sabotage because you chose your friends. Make the necessary adjustments to spend time with those who support your success.
5. Learn to deal with discomfort.
Self-sabotage is a strategy for dealing with discomfort. If you were not uncomfortable at all, you would never sabotage yourself in the first place. Understand that discomfort is necessary if you want to change your life in a meaningful way. All roads to success lead through discomfort.
6. Visualize your success.
The idea of success might be more stressful than you think, especially if you have gotten used to failing. Part of you might believe it is better to deal with the “devil you know.”
- Take a few minutes each day and visualize yourself being successful. Notice how it feels. Continue this routine until success feels completely natural.
- Think about why you might find failure appealing. What are the advantages to you of failing?
7. Avoid comparing yourself to others.
We compare ourselves to the most talented people we know. Everyone is better than you at something. But we compare our weaknesses to the strengths of others.
- You can always improve from where you were last week. That is the key to success.
It is not easy to notice how you get in your own way. Examine your habits and your past failures. Do you expect to succeed, or do you start searching for excuses to fail before you’ve even gotten started?
Success can be just as scary as failure. This is particularly true if failure has become the pattern for you.
Stop getting in your own way. You can enhance the results you have been experiencing and discover the joys of success, instead!!
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