Comparing yourself to others is a surefire way to reduce your self-confidence, motivation, and self-esteem. It must be natural to make these types of comparisons, because nearly everyone does it. However, that does not mean it is a good strategy.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

If you want to become the best possible you, avoid comparing yourself to others.

The Hazards

There are several challenges that happen when you compare yourself to someone else:

1. Everyone has a different starting point.

You might be just learning to play golf, but your friend has been playing for 10 years. You might be interested in playing basketball, but you are only 5-feet tall and your friend is 18 inches taller than you are.

  • You cannot compare progress, results, or success unless the starting points are the same, and they never are.

2. Everyone has a different level of talent.

Some people are born with a high IQ. Some people naturally have amazing hand-eye coordination. Others have a natural knack for music or math. Again, different starting points.

3. The resources available to you and another person are different.

If you want to play the violin and your father is a wealthy concert violinist, you have a huge advantage over someone born into a financially challenged family that has no experience in music.

4. We tend to compare ourselves to the best in the world.

You do not compare your Texas Hold’em skills to your neighbor the electrician. You compare yourself to the tournament winners. We do not compare ourselves to the average. We compare ourselves to the best the world has to offer.

5. There is always someone better.

There are only a handful of people that can make a reasonable claim to being the best at anything. There are nearly eight billion people in the world. That is a lot of people you have to surpass to be the best.

It is easy to see why making comparisons can be dangerous. There is little to gain and too much risk. Comparing yourself to others does not provide useful information. You are only going to upset yourself, and that type of comparison is not fair in the first place.

The Solution

Here is what you can do instead:

1. Compare yourself to yourself.

A better option is to compare yourself to yourself. Pay attention to your progress over time. Notice your improvement. As long as you are making headway, you have a good reason to be excited! Strive to become better each day.

2. Limit your exposure to social media.

In theory, social media exists to connect people. Unfortunately, social media is often used as a way of showing off.

  • You rarely get the real story. What you get is someone’s best attempt to make their life look better than it really is. Everyone, except you, seems to be living a spectacular life. It is not true.
  • Be cautious with social media. Most people report being happier when they removed social media from their lives.

3. Use the success of others as inspiration.

The success of others can be useful to you. You can study how they became so successful. Their success can inspire you to become the best you can be. Just avoid comparing your success to theirs.

Do you compare yourself to others? Making this type of comparison can be detrimental to your self-confidence and self-esteem. Instead, compare your current version of yourself to the version of yourself from three months ago. That is a fair comparison to make. It becomes easy to see your progress or lack of progress.

The best comparison you can make is to your past self. Set a few intentions and spend some time each day working on those intentions. You will be happy when you see the progress you have made.

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